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5 Red Flags Your Date Requires Reparenting

5 Red Flags Your Date Requires Reparenting

The reparenting role requires authority, just like a parent has authority over a child, this is not a kind of authority suitable for a romantic relationship, adults value autonomy to keep their seperate selves intact. Even those who can fulfil this need learn their lesson down the road and start having boundaries, their sex lives always suffer, because it's subconsciously incestuous to sleep with a "child" even if that is an emotionally immature adult in the 40s, sex is then viewed with shame and disgust, cheating then happens. The overly reliant one who requires reparenting uses sex as a form of dominative control, indicative of helplessness in his own life, the overly care taking one emotionally distance via killing off her sex drive or refusing sex, she see no lost leaving the relationship even if he's rich or successful, emotional needs are basic needs, wealth or career success cannot compensate for it. 

There is always power struggle happening when someone requires reparenting and no matter how healthy and helpful you're, you will be the scapegoat for all the pain they don't want to face and they can still see you as a replacement evil father or mother after all the help rendered, it is a thankless task with no rewards, make sure you're OK playing dual or triple roles if you date someone who requires reparenting.

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Top 5 Kinds Of People Pleasers, Same Behaviours Different Motivations

Top 5 Kinds Of People Pleasers, Same Behaviours Different Motivations

People pleasers are looking to regain control of their lives, by using what they see as a gentler method to cope, it is subconsciously motivated by control.

I was a people pleaser myself, as I quit and after I quit, other kinds of people pleasers tried to control me back to the same nice girl place throughout the entire process so look out for that if you're trying to quit, you can be motivated by several if not all of the above to people please, if you persist, you will change your life as I did mine.

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