The inaugural 2020 Child Online Safety Index report found that almost 60 per cent of children in the age group of 8 to 12years old in 30 countries were exposed to one or more forms of cyber risks, of which 45 per cent were affected by cyberbullying, either as bullies themselves or as victims.
The risk of going viral is the backlash can be sudden as well, this is not something even adults can handle. I have close to 500 people blocked on 8 of my social media accounts, people who come unhinged, abusers, people who provoke.
I don't want to have to deal with them at all, it doesn't matter if they agree or disagree with me, it's that no one deserves abuse, harassment and stalking, just for participating.
All the talk of free speech, cancel culture, freedom of information is moot when abuse is present. These ideas are often also distorted to condone abuse.
WoLF made a public statement to work together with Family Policy Alliance, a conservative Christian organisation. I heard rumours through the grapevine about their conservative connection. Religious bigotry is so far away from feminism, I didn't believe them, I also didn't want to believe them, I have witnessed my Christian ex as well as my LGBT friends becoming suicidal after conversion therapy, I KNOW how life threatening it is.
They also release a "Declaration of no confidence in LGB movement leadership", so I guess they think religious white masters are suppose to evangelise deviant lost LGB sheep into their flock of "traditional families", a term that will alert any LGBTQ, we know it means heterosexual families with a subservient stepford wife, suburban picket fence and 2.5 kids in gendered pink and blue clothing.
An organisation that is anti abortion, anti homosexuals, upholds religious patriarchal ideas of female servitude, it is so far away from feminism, it's mind boggling. One of the board members is Patrick Caruana, he has been chairman of FPA board of directors since 2013. Prior to that, he was chairman of the Focus on the Family board of directors.
Diet culture is a system of beliefs that: worships thinness and equates it to health, promotes weight loss as a means of attaining higher status, demonises certain ways of eating while elevating others, and oppresses people who don’t match up with its supposed picture of health”.
RAPE culture is a system of beliefs that: worships MALES and equates it to BETTER, promotes SEXISM as a means of attaining higher status, demonises certain WOMEN while elevating others, and oppresses people who don’t match up with its supposed picture of THE RIGHT WOMAN”.
I didn't want to have to listen to them and I felt like shit for thinking that way, I had to deal with the guilt of letting them down, when it wasn't my problem to begin with, I didn't victimise them, I didn't gain anything from them, I thought I was showing up for them, how did that script get flipped?
When I see how many are temporarily engaged when it trends then disengage after, out of the hundreds of locals and friends of all nationalities who metoo-ed with me when it started in 2017, I was the only one who continued to talk about it years later.
The behaviour of these pseudo women reading other male drag queens, laughing about their body size, facial beauty, make up skills and artistic talents wasn't directed at them as men but at the superficial facade of a woman they each wore as a joke in and of itself.
It is using the visibility of women as a tool, just like how we're expected to be used as sex providers, valued as pretty property ready to change hands from male slaveowner to male slaveowner. Drag legitimised this idea that women and the associated femininity are exactly what women are only good for, empty ornamental shells that must be painted and put on display instead of organically laying on beach sand without interference.
It is not your fault for feeling lost, uncertain or lousy about your body, we live in a highly toxic world where we're hated for no reason, we're broken down to be compliant, randomly victimised out of the blue, evil is around the corner, people are manipulative and horrifyingly unsafe, some don't have basic decency and respect for others, we live in an asylum and the only way to survive is to completely stop buying in.
It is not your fault if you have self loathing or self hatred, it is not your fault, you're conditioned daily to stay down, feel lousy and accept that this is a woman's fate, I say hell to the no, we deserve better!
We do need to work together, to not condone or enable these things to happen, to not shame women when it does, tell her we understand when she's pushed to a corner. That her being victimised isn't her fault, she doesn't have to dress this way or that to stay safe, it's total bullocks, men are capable of controlling themselves, they're not animals, they can do it, they rather not if even the leeway, that is entitlement, it's not they can't, they don't want to do it.
Tell her that it isn't her duty to pander to the male gaze, it isn't her responsibility for someone else's inability to respect others, it isn't her duty to police herself or another woman either, support her choices first then discourse later, she needs your comfort more than your judgement.