Anti Dieting

Wearing The Unicorn Preppy Look As A Form Of Creative Uprising

Wearing The Unicorn Preppy Look As A Form Of Creative Uprising

Aaahh this look is what got the ball rolling back to my college days as a fashion student, my loved one was gushing about my DIY patched jeans using Sashiko, she was encouraging me to put a full look together.

The rainbow is about acceptance and diversity, our body suits are all physically coloured differently, yet our spirits know nothing except I AM, we're all ultimately spiritual beings.

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Cyber Bullying Is On The Rise, Social Media Erosion Of Empathy

Cyber Bullying Is On The Rise, Social Media Erosion Of Empathy

The inaugural 2020 Child Online Safety Index report found that almost 60 per cent of children in the age group of 8 to 12years old in 30 countries were exposed to one or more forms of cyber risks, of which 45 per cent were affected by cyberbullying, either as bullies themselves or as victims.

The risk of going viral is the backlash can be sudden as well, this is not something even adults can handle. I have close to 500 people blocked on 8 of my social media accounts, people who come unhinged, abusers, people who provoke. 

I don't want to have to deal with them at all, it doesn't matter if they agree or disagree with me, it's that no one deserves abuse, harassment and stalking, just for participating. 

All the talk of free speech, cancel culture, freedom of information is moot when abuse is present. These ideas are often also distorted to condone abuse. 

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The Unholy Trinity Of Radical Feminism, Religious Bigotry & TERFs

The Unholy Trinity Of Radical Feminism, Religious Bigotry & TERFs

WoLF made a public statement to work together with Family Policy Alliance, a conservative Christian organisation. I heard rumours through the grapevine about their conservative connection. Religious bigotry is so far away from feminism, I didn't believe them, I also didn't want to believe them, I have witnessed my Christian ex as well as my LGBT friends becoming suicidal after conversion therapy, I KNOW how life threatening it is.

They also release a "Declaration of no confidence in LGB movement leadership", so I guess they think religious white masters are suppose to evangelise deviant lost LGB sheep into their flock of "traditional families", a term that will alert any LGBTQ, we know it means heterosexual families with a subservient stepford wife, suburban picket fence and 2.5 kids in gendered pink and blue clothing. 

An organisation that is anti abortion, anti homosexuals, upholds religious patriarchal ideas of female servitude, it is so far away from feminism, it's mind boggling. One of the board members is Patrick Caruana, he has been chairman of FPA board of directors since 2013. Prior to that, he was chairman of the Focus on the Family board of directors.

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10 Anti Diet Ways To Fix Indigestion & Become A Feminist Fart Monster

10 Anti Diet Ways To Fix Indigestion & Become A Feminist Fart Monster

Diet culture is a system of beliefs that: worships thinness and equates it to health, promotes weight loss as a means of attaining higher status, demonises certain ways of eating while elevating others, and oppresses people who don’t match up with its supposed picture of health”.

                                                                                               Christy Harrison

RAPE culture is a system of beliefs that: worships MALES and equates it to BETTER, promotes SEXISM as a means of attaining higher status, demonises certain WOMEN while elevating others, and oppresses people who don’t match up with its supposed picture of THE RIGHT WOMAN”.

                                                                                                                         Min

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What If Your Metoo Attacker Was A Nobody & You're One Of The Little People

What If Your Metoo Attacker Was A Nobody & You're One Of The Little People

I didn't want to have to listen to them and I felt like shit for thinking that way, I had to deal with the guilt of letting them down, when it wasn't my problem to begin with, I didn't victimise them, I didn't gain anything from them, I thought I was showing up for them, how did that script get flipped?

When I see how many are temporarily engaged when it trends then disengage after, out of the hundreds of locals and friends of all nationalities who metoo-ed with me when it started in 2017, I was the only one who continued to talk about it years later. 

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Why I Boycotted Male Drag & Got Into Female Drag

Why I Boycotted Male Drag & Got Into Female Drag

The behaviour of these pseudo women reading other male drag queens, laughing about their body size, facial beauty, make up skills and artistic talents wasn't directed at them as men but at the superficial facade of a woman they each wore as a joke in and of itself.

It is using the visibility of women as a tool, just like how we're expected to be used as sex providers, valued as pretty property ready to change hands from male slaveowner to male slaveowner. Drag legitimised this idea that women and the associated femininity are exactly what women are only good for, empty ornamental shells that must be painted and put on display instead of organically laying on beach sand without interference. 

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Why Choice Is The New Pretty Please

Why Choice Is The New Pretty Please

She would have to resort to feeling good about her mundane choices because the only victories she can really rely on are the tiny ones, the unfortunate result that many older feminists know about, one compromise becomes another, a small gateway becomes a floodgate of never-ending demands, it is only by not compromising anything, holding down the fort like radical feminists have done that any change is possible, it is only by being truthful to oneself, what is really ours and what isn't, what is out of our control and what is within it that we find peace within our hearts, that we can redefine success in an honest way that is authentic, self loving and other loving. 
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Why Lopez & Shakira's Super Bowl Performance Is The Clash Within Feminism

Why Lopez & Shakira's Super Bowl Performance Is The Clash Within Feminism

You cannot really tell if a woman own it from the outside, there have been times I felt free by sexualising myself for once, it's a new experience for someone camera shy and prefer to not take center stage, then there're times I did hyper sexualised myself when I had trauma because you might not do that to others but you sure can do it to yourself, kill of your sexuality or feel so disconnected from it that any kind of sexy is taboo. 
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Women Are Calling Kobe Out, Kobe's Celebrity Status Brings Controversy

Women Are Calling Kobe Out, Kobe's Celebrity Status Brings Controversy

Success is immunity for well known men, the cognitive dissonance of the public when dealt with the conflict of how much they admire them and how someone can possibly be a totally different person in private has always been the biggest deterrent for hundreds of abused women I have interviewed in the last four years of anti-violence against women work. 
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The Curious Case of The Pimp & Handmaiden Police

The Curious Case of The Pimp & Handmaiden Police

It is not your fault for feeling lost, uncertain or lousy about your body, we live in a highly toxic world where we're hated for no reason, we're broken down to be compliant, randomly victimised out of the blue, evil is around the corner, people are manipulative and horrifyingly unsafe, some don't have basic decency and respect for others, we live in an asylum and the only way to survive is to completely stop buying in. 

It is not your fault if you have self loathing or self hatred, it is not your fault, you're conditioned daily to stay down, feel lousy and accept that this is a woman's fate, I say hell to the no, we deserve better! 

We do need to work together, to not condone or enable these things to happen, to not shame women when it does, tell her we understand when she's pushed to a corner. That her being victimised isn't her fault, she doesn't have to dress this way or that to stay safe, it's total bullocks, men are capable of controlling themselves, they're not animals, they can do it, they rather not if even the leeway, that is entitlement, it's not they can't, they don't want to do it. 

Tell her that it isn't her duty to pander to the male gaze, it isn't her responsibility for someone else's inability to respect others, it isn't her duty to police herself or another woman either, support her choices first then discourse later, she needs your comfort more than your judgement. 

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